Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries
posted by H. Dan Smith, EDD, MFT

  • Trusting no one - trusting anyone - black and white thinking

  • Telling all

  • Talking at intimate level on first meeting

  • Falling in love with a new acquaintance

  • Falling in love with anyone who reaches out

  • Being overwhelmed by a person - preoccupied

  • Acting on first sexual impulse

  • Being sexual for partner, not self

  • Going against personal values or rights to please others

  • Not noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries

  • Not noticing when someone invades your boundaries

  • Accepting food, gifts, touch, sex that you don't want

  • Touching a person without asking

  • Taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting

  • Giving as much as you can give for the sake of giving

  • Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you

  • Letting others direct your life

  • Letting others describe your reality

  • Letting others define you

  • Believing others can anticipate your needs

  • Expecting others to fill your needs automatically

  • Falling apart so someone will take care of you

  • Self abuse

  • Sexual and physical abuse

  • Food abuse

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